A Father’s Love and Father’s Day Vigils

Fall campaign September 28- November 6.

The thought of a Father’s Love evokes different emotions and memories for all of us. We think of our own fathers and those of us men with children, of our love for them. A kaleidoscope of virtues, behaviors and feelings fly though my head: kindness, sacrifice, caring, compassion, patience, impatience, joy, sorrow, pride, time, effort, gratitude, ingratitude, love, anger and forgiveness. Underlying it all is love.

Yet my love for my father and my children pales in comparison to the LOVE of God the Father with His limitless love, mercy and forgiveness that HE has for me and each and every one of us. When I think of the Prodigal Son or “For He so loved the world He gave His only son…” I feel blessed and joyful to be a son of God and to be loved by HIM unconditionally. I am filled with true happiness and am reminded that my goal in life is to get to heaven and to help my children and all of those around me to do the same.

On this upcoming Father’s Day weekend I ask that each of you pray for those fathers who are confused, deluded and considering abortion for their unborn children and hope they instead welcome them joyfully into the world.

There will be two prayer vigils Father’s Day weekend: Saturday June 18 at planned parenthood from 7-10 and Sunday starting at 7 until at pp as well. Please join us in praying for those fathers in need.

To all fathers, I wish you a joyful and peaceful father’s day. And to God the Father, THANK YOU for loving me.

Tim B. (as seen with my two children and father)

My Children








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Here are a few pictures of our 40 Days For Life families:

Nikki’s husband Joe with their daughter:


Katie and her father John:

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Conflicted and Confused



How do we resolve conflict?

The woman carrying a child,who is not part of her plans, is in conflict in this world.    We live in a society that does not value human life in the womb. Therefore, a pregnant woman can be in conflict.  She may want very much to have the baby which is growing inside of her but other factors can influence her decision.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines conflict as 1. A fight, battle or war; 2. Competitive or opposing action of incompatibles; mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes or external or internal demand 3. The opposition of person or forces that gives rise to the dramatic action in drama or fiction.

We want to resolve conflicts.  How would you choose to resolve a conflict?


Abortion is the most aggressive and violent choice of conflict resolution.  The choice to abort kills the child.   As a result, abortion is the least effective way to resolve the conflict of an unplanned pregnancy. If one is looking for a win-win solution, abortion is not the answer.

Woman who choose to end their pregnancies may do so for varying reasons.  However, research (pro-life groups and pro-abortion groups)  shows that the choice to abort a baby is based on financial concerns more than any other reason.



Why do women choose abortions?  (This is a pro-abortion article but it shows how women choose abortion out of financial concerns more so than any other reason.)


“If we believe the survey, most of the women seeking to abort here did so, not because they were triumphantly exercising their ‘power to choose’, but because they felt like, given the circumstances, they had no other realistic choice.  Abortion forces on them a cruel, violent, destructive option that does little to solve their basic social or economic problems, which may, in part, themselves be a consequence of Roe’s forced cultural transformation.”

Lifenews- why do women have abortions

Johnstons Archive: reasons for abortions  “About 98.3% of abortions in the United States are elective, including socio-economic reasons or for birth control. This includes perhaps 30% for primarily economic reasons and possibly 0.1% each for sex selection and selective reduction of multifetal pregnancies.”  The AGI institute, cited in this review of data, is pro-abortion.



The laws in America are in a state of conflict since the decision of Roe v Wade (based on lies) was handed down by the U.S. Supreme Court in 1973.  The decision is in direct opposition to the declared reason for America’s fight for freedom as stated in The Declaration of Independence.

When we can not turn to the law of the land for guidance in making positive decisions for life, we turn to our faith in God.  For example, in the  Catholic faith practice, the Cathechism of the Catholic Church is a guiding document.  For references please see: Good Acts and Evil Acts:  page 435 (1755-1756)  Safeguarding Peace:  pages 554- 559  2304: “…Peace cannot be obtained on earth without safeguarding the goods of people, free communication among men, respect for the dignity of persons and peoples, and the assiduous quality of fraternity.…” Common Good: pages 464- 466 (1901-1912).

The Ten Commandments written on stone tablets as directed by God to Moses are another set of guiding documents.  Every Christian denomination and the Jewish faith practice acknowledge The Big Ten.  Another Scripture passage that states it very clearly in terms of God’s guidance is Deuteronomy 30:19.

Students who take the equality part seriously speak out through Created Equal- FB page and  createdequal.org.  (Thanks Sally for the information!)

In our American educational system, children are taught to resolve conflicts peacefully.  If a child chose a violent means to an end, that child would be expelled and/or put in jail.  Pregnant women who are considering abortion need help and truthful, honest guidance to resolve the conflicted feelings they have.  Just as children need help, so do adults.  Young girls, the same ones learning about positive conflict resolution in the classroom, need to be guided to life saving conflict resolution when pregnant.

Conflict resolution lesson plans: “These lessons also support the responsibilities mentioned in the FCPS SR&R regulation. “Students are responsible for resolving disputes in an appropriate and nonviolent manner.”  (From the introduction for Fairfax County Schools).  The lessons also state:

*******Hints for dealing with conflicts on a one-to-one basis • TAKE TIME TO COOL OFF and  THINK ABOUT THE PERSON AS A PERSON. This helps to break down role stereotypes.********** (Think about the baby as a human- if  your take is that life doesn’t begin at conception then  think of the baby as a human being at 18 days when the heart begins to beat- or try living without a heart beat.  No heartbeat- CPR can bring someone back to life.  Is a born human not human when the heart stops beating?)

I can’t said the ant  a child’s story for adults about conflict resolution.    I can’t said the ant (with children)


Pregnancy-  it is not just a woman’s issue. There is the mother, the father and the child.  Once a women resolves the conflict with a pro-life mindset, miracles begin to happen!

Consider options other than abortion or contraceptiion:

Catholicsexuality.com  It really is for all.   This website addresses health issues related to abortion and contraception. (Dr. Anne Nolte actually responded to my private message.)

Center for Bio-ethical reform:   Caution: the opening video is graphic.  There is other information on the website which is very helpful should the graphic images be too disturbing to watch. ( Thanks Sally!)

End the conflict that the choice of abortion brings into our lives.      Choose life, it is good for the soul!

Marian R. Carlino

May: Mothers and Children

Update May 12:  Please check out the Donate page to see if you can help a mother expecting twins who has chosen life for her babies.    Every little bit will help!  Prayer most of all but prayer leads to action!  Contact information and help needed is listed  here: Donate! 




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Psalm 127:3   

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb, a reward.

Praying outside an abortion clinic with children  is a  blog post (March 26, 2012) from a pregnant mother who prays with her children in front of an abortion clinic.    A 40 Days for Life campaign came to her area.  This mother retells a conversation she had with her child:  

“What did we do yesterday Mommy?”  She asked.

“What did we do?”  I replied, thinking she was talking about going to the local water park for the first time ever.

“What did God think of what we did yesterday Mommy?”  She asked the question and then continued to answer her own question:  “God was pleased.  We helped babies.”

“That’s right, we prayed for babies yesterday.” 

“We prayed that mommy’s would keep babies away from bad people.”  Then she looked at me as if to reassure me:  “Our baby is fine Mommy.”


Thank you to all the women who witness for life.  With special gratitude for those who bring their children.   

baby mother and signs         cahill famiy carrieta and Adriel cory suzanne etc

“What makes mothers all that they are? / Might as well ask, ‘What makes a star?’ / Ask your heart to tell you her worth / Your heart will say, ‘Heaven on earth.’    (Peter Pan)

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Check out the blog for May 7 and the diaper drive organized by this young mother… mothers helping mothers and children.

d family kristy and baby angus maggie and sons mary shannon and john



mother and baby mother b and f mother R peggy michael and david     suzanne matthew joshua maria and luke m


Songs for Mom!






“Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered would soon deliver you? “Mary Did You Know?

Marian Carlino

May 7: Diaper Drive- Helping Mom’s Choose Life!


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Katie reports on the diaper drive:

I had been worrying about the weather and the meter maids and/or police saying we were not allowed to have so much stuff on the sidewalk but God was clearly working alongside us, and not just in visible ways. Other than one escort telling us our sidewalk chalk art was graffiti, no one said we were not allowed to do what we were doing.  People were friendly and supportive.


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Some of the other escorts actually tried to avoid stepping on the  chalk message.  When one of the escorts made a donation, it was probably the most heartwarming event of the whole day. He asked what we were collecting donations for and we explained that the Pregnancy Resource Center helps mothers facing unexpected pregnancies with diapers, wipes, formula and anything else they will need during and after their pregnancy. He put a few dollars in the bottle and took a donut, and hopefully much more was happening in his and the other escorts’ hearts that we are not yet aware.  (Another pro-choice woman donated money as well.  At first, she walked by but then turned around.  Pro-choice does mean supporting the woman who chooses to have her baby.)


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Peter, the pigeon who prayed with Vince, on Sunday morning in front of PP approves. Vince said the pigeon is part of the dove family. Saturday night’s rain did not wash away the message.
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Katie, Chris and Katie’s dad rented a van for the day in which to store the donations.









Chris, Katie and Katie’s dad, John

There were several teenagers praying in the morning who gave us diapers and a dozen roses for the sidewalk advocates to give to women going in.

A man who was there with his girlfriend (he said for birth control, although they were there for quite a while) had a donut and coffee and we talked about other clinics that do not support abortion and about how hormonal birth control works, and he took lots of information. A girl who came out with gauze taped to her arm ate a donut and drank some coffee.  I put some post abortion information by her cup and said to take it if she wanted.  She thanked me but did not take it.








One man walked by later in the day with a little girl and made a comment about us trying to take away women’s rights to have an abortion, but later came back and talked to us about our kids who are about the same age and he let us give the little girl bubbles. Another person stopped (at a green light!) on the other side of the street and ran across to give us five dollars.




There were a couple girls who yelled and swore at us (one of whom came back to take pictures) but there were far more positive comments, and hopefully several more cars with pro-life bumper stickers. At the end of the day, a homeless woman asked for money and said she had not eaten in two days and we gave her about two or 3 dozen chocolate chip cookies and two bananas.

The bicycle party of 15 or so donated after (Katie) ran across the street to hand out cookies.

We’ve collected 4,750 diapers, 4,734 wipes, a ton of baby and maternity clothes, a high chair, a hobby horse, a stroller, a crib mattress, two diaper bags, some baby soap and lotion, lots of formula, and $605 plus change. A few people have said they still want to donate.  Donations can be made to the Pregnancy Resource Center in the South Hills.

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Katie and Chris kept a count going through the day of all the diapers (individual count) and wipes collected.


Thank you all for your help and tell everyone thank you for making this so successful! I am sure there are many mothers who will feel some of their worries lifted away and know how much they are loved because of everyone coming together on Saturday!  I am praying maybe some girl even realized she’s not alone and missed her appointment!

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A wonderful group of supporters and helpers!


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 Recently, Katie also set up a table at the local community college to distribute information for young women and men.  Education is a key factor in reaching the hearts of women and men who think abortion is a positive choice.

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 One young mother, one young man, and a father made a difference for all of us on Saturday!  Thank you!

And the grandmother who was home taking care of the child- behind the scenes work is heroic too!

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Posting on behalf of Katie and her wonderful helpers and the participants seen and unseen!

Marian Carlino







April 15: Father Frank Pavone


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Father Frank Pavone, Director of Priests for Life, prayed in front of PP on April 15, 2016 at 10:30 am.  People from the greater Pittsburgh community joined  him in peaceful, prayerful witness for life.

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Then many joined in a luncheon.

Luncheon with Father Frank Pavone in Pittsburgh.


 Mass of Mercy and Innocence

Fr. Frank Pavone attended Mass at St. Thomas More Parish in Bethel Park on April 15 at 6:30 pm.  The Mass was for anyone who lost a child to abortion, miscarriage or SIDS.


link: Priests for Life




Save the date:   Saturday, May 7   (all day)  

                                        Diaper Drive in front of PP 

As we remember the lives of babies who have died, let us honor those babies by taking good care of their brothers and sisters.


Day Infinity and Beyond

Make a joyful sound unto the Lord, a baby was saved this morning in front of PP!! Pray-ers from Steubenville, Virginia, a Sidewalk Advocate,  and Diane with the baby models were there when a woman who changed her mind came out of PP and took resource information for LIFE!!

Day:  Holy Saturday  To Infinity and Beyond….


Buzz Lightyear goes “to infinity and beyond”, Superman dives in for the rescue and Star Trek heroes went where “no man has ever gone before”…. well- what do you know!  Their hero must be Jesus.



Jesus loves us “to infinity and beyond” starting from before birth.  He died to rescue. Jesus came from where no man has ever come before.

So for this singer, I suggest learning about Jesus…. from “infinity and beyond” He loves us!  Anyone who needs a hero, needs Jesus!



We all hold out for heroes.  Woman who are seeking abortions need real heroes in their lives.  Most women seek abortions out of fear, despair, loss and abandonment.  To bring heroes to life,  we need real people to pray, to offer tangible support, to educate in order to get the message out that there are life affirming alternatives!  Thank you sidewalk prayers and advocates for doing just that.

The following Scripture passage (partially quoted here) describes the desperate need of a woman.  She looks to the leader of her time for help. Thankfully, he had asked for wisdom to guide his people.  He is her hero!

Solomon is faced with a difficult decision

1 Kings 3: 16-28

21 In the morning when I got up to feed my son, I saw that he was dead. But when I looked at him in the light, I knew he wasn’t my son.

22 “No!” the other woman shouted. “He was your son. My baby is alive!”

“The dead baby is yours,” the first woman yelled. “Mine is alive!”

They argued back and forth in front of Solomon, 23 until finally he said, “Both of you say this live baby is yours. 24 Someone bring me a sword.”

A sword was brought, and Solomon ordered, 25 “Cut the baby in half! That way each of you can have part of him.”

26 “Please don’t kill my son,” the baby’s mother screamed. “Your Majesty, I love him very much, but give him to her. Just don’t kill him.”

The other woman shouted, “Go ahead and cut him in half. Then neither of us will have the baby.”

27 Solomon said, “Don’t kill the baby.” Then he pointed to the first woman, “She is his real mother. Give the baby to her.”

We can learn from Jesus.  But you have to open Scripture to read about Him… and then establish a relationship with Him and His writings.  Prayer and listening leads to action.

Has Jesus, because you asked Him for direction, ever given you a clear answer.  He did for me: (and re-read the opening above for the woman this morning at PP)

On March 24, 1998, I had a true experience of  an example of Jesus.  He showed me through a teacher in Jonesboro, Arkansas the lengths one woman went to in order to save another. She stood between a bullet and a child in a school shooting.  Shannon Wright died saving that student.  My life changed the moment I learned of her death.  I was seeking direction about a violent child in my class.  Why do people have to die to save others? The violent will take the world through violence.  So, one person at a time, we try to stop the violence.   Abortion is a violent choice of action.

Why do mothers think they have to kill their children in order to live themselves?

I asked Jesus:   “How much do you love me?”

Jesus responded by stretching out his arms to take me and hold me in that moment on the Cross when he was feeling most abandoned.


                                                         All is forgiven!

Take action:  Help woman demonstate the love of Jesus for their babies. Jesus would like that.  Yes, He does!!  It is good for your soul!

May the Jesus who died for us on Good Friday and the same Jesus who rose from the dead on Easter Sunday hold you in his loving arms from now -to infinity and beyond.  Repent and believe in the Lamb of God!


Happy Easter!  To learn more about resources and 40 Days for Life.. click on the link “About” at the top of the main page of this site.

Marian Carlino