War memorial cemeteries are built
to honor those who have sacrificed their lives during the war.
America’s Wars (1775 -1991)
651,031 Battle Deaths
America’s Abortions (1973 – 2015)
58,586,256 Baby Deaths
Where is the cemetery families can use to bury the body of their aborted child?
Ordinarily when a family member dies the rest of the family has a grief process. If successful, the grief process “closes the wound.”
Our culture resists, and is even hostile to, admitting the reality that abortion kills a child, a member of a family.
America permits abortion to
kill their child
wound the mother
strip the parental rights of the father.
If a man’s pregnant partner seeks to have an abortion, the father’s consent isn’t legally required.
A woman may choose to terminate a pregnancy against the objections of the father.
The father does not have a legal right to be notified of an abortion.
If a prospective mother seeks to abort a pregnancy against a father’s wishes, an attorney may be able to draft an agreement where the father agrees to pay the costs of pregnancy and obtain full custody after birth.
Arthur Shostak (Bachelor of Science, 1958, Cornell University; Ph.D., 1961, Princeton) accompanied his partner to a well-groomed suburban abortion clinic in the early 1970s.
They had both agreed abortion was best.
Sitting in the waiting room proved to be a “bruising experience”.
When he left the clinic, he was shocked by how deeply disturbed he had become.
Shostak spent the next ten years studying the abortion experience of men. His study, published in 1984, covered 1,000 men who accompanied their wives or girlfriends to abortion clinics. This study is still the benchmark study in the field. Here are some of his discoveries.
BIG BOYS DON’T CRY
Abortion rewrites the rules of masculinity.
While a man is expected to be strong, abortion makes him feel weak.
A man is expected to be responsible. Abortion encourages him to act without concern for the innocent.
It encourages him to destroy any identifiable and undesirable outcomes of his sexual decision making and/or attachments.
They feel sad. They feel curious. They feel a lot of things.
But usually they have talked to no one about it. It is taboo.
More than one in four equated abortion to murder.
Slightly over 80 percent said they had already begun to think about the child that might have been born.
29 percent said they had been fantasizing about the child “frequently”.
68 percent believed men involved in abortions “did not have an easy time of it.”
47 percent worried about having disturbing thoughts afterwards.
Many men began to cry during the interview.
When asked if the man and woman should have an equal say in the decision, 80 percent of married men agreed. Fifty-eight percent of single men agreed.
Many expressed frustration and anger about the failure of women to consider their wishes and feelings.
In a subsequent interview Shostak said:
Most of the men I talk to think about the abortion years after it is over.
With a man, if he wants to shed a tear, he had better do it privately.
If he feels that the abortion had denied him his child, he had better work through it himself.
He does not share his pain with a clergyman, a minister.
He does not share it with a close male friend.
It just stays with him.
And it stays for a long time.
According to Dr. Vincent Rue, one of the nation’s most experienced psychologists in the field of post-abortion issues:
Typical male grief responses include remaining silent and grieving alone.
A guilt-ridden, tormented male does not easily love or accept love.
Men have reported a large number of problems that they claim were a direct result of their abortion experience. These include:
risk taking and suicidal behavior,
increasing feelings of grief over time,
feelings of helplessness, guilt, depression,
greater tendencies toward becoming angry and violent, and
feelings connected to a sense of lost manhood.
If we listen to the national professional mental health organizations, abortion carries no psychological health risk, certainly none greater than child birth.
This flies in the face of thousands of stories that I have heard – the stories that you hear from women and men impacted from abortion, both in this country and abroad.
Post abortion treatment is a human issue because abortion represents to those who are negatively impacted by it an intentional death experience.
The American Psychological Association, in 2008, provided a report to the American people that basically says that abortion carries no increased relative risk.
I would submit to you that this is incorrect. It is incorrect scientifically and there is abundant research, some 385 studies, that would ague in opposition to what the APA said.
“Project Rachel: The Psychoanalyst’s Role.” Vincent Rue, MSW, PhD
NOTES FROM THE SIDEWALK
Jeannie, designer of this happy note, continues to grow in wisdom and grace.
NOTES FROM THE OTHER SIDEWALK
PAT 7-9 SHIFT MANAGER
Today was the day I signed up my parish, St. Regis in Trafford, to stand from 7-9 AM…and I worried. I worried about the weather forecast (scattered thundershowers). I worried about the fact that the EQT 10-Miler would close down Liberty Avenue “sometime around 7 AM”. And I worried that Jeff, who was bringing the materials to the sidewalk for Diane today, might not get in before Liberty was closed down. In short, I forgot that TRUST was the theme for this campaign.
All worked out better than I could have reasonably expected. Steph, my wife, decided late that that she would come with me. Two of my brother Knights of Columbus, Mike and Albert, came. Albert’s wife, Yolanda, and their daughter, Susan (from Saint John XXIII Parish), also came. We had a good mix of prayer and good conversation. Many thanks to all of you.
MARSHALL 9-11 SHIFT MANAGER
Today was one of the most interesting experiences I have had at 40 days. It was the day of a 10 K race that goes right through the 40 days site, so just to get down and travel through the city was a minor miracle.
There was a “pro-choice advocate” cheering on the runs while she held a sign proclaiming her support for PP. God gives us the grace to work for His cause, the cause of Life. She was loud, and I believe that we were prayerful. Many runners, especially women supported her and thanked her, so we are reminded to pray for our nation. Hopefully, they act in ignorance.
I am grateful for Kathy, Vince, Theresa, and Bill for standing for 40 days for Life. It rained during the entire two hours, and it was quite heavy by the end.
MAGGIE 1-3 SHIFT MANAGER
Praise God good weather for my shift.
I had a wonderful family with 6 kids keep me company and they prayed one rosary after another. I had a few individuals join me for the end of my shift.
Praise God for all his love and care!
DAVE 3-5 SHIFT MANAGER
Bill and all these people filled the sidewalk with life and prayers. Not only was the weather warm but, so were the hearts!
And God saw that it was good.